May His Soul Rest In Peace

Age 69 

John J McLoughlin

 John J. McLoughlin, age 69, of New Milford, died Wednesday, May 19, 2010, at home. He was the husband of Margaret Major McLoughlin. Mr. McLoughlin was born in New York City, October 5, 1940, the son of the late Michael and Kathleen O'Brien Mc Loughlin. He was a veteran of the U.S. Army and a graduate of Manhattan College, New York. Mr. McLoughlin worked in the pharmaceutical business all his life, and was Director of Sales for Soft Gel Technologies of California for 15 years. He was the loving husband of Margaret "Gretta", devoted father of Jennifer of Trumbull, CT, Kevin of New Milford, Michelle of Yorktown, NY and Danny of New York City and loving grandfather to Michael, Anthony, Danielle and Isabelle. He is also survived by his sister Ann of New Jersey, cousins, nieces, and countless friends in the U.S. and Ireland. He was predeceased by his son Brendan. A Mass of Christian Burial was celebrated Friday, May 21, 2010 at 11 a.m. at Our Lady of the Lakes Church, New Milford. Burial followed at Center Cemetery, New Milford. Funeral arrangements were handled by the Lillis Funeral Home, 58 Bridge Street, New Milford, CT.
Published in the Danbury CT "News Times" on May 20, 2010

John or Johnny as he was known to alumni of "Our Old Neighborhood" was raised in The Bronx, NY. He attended and graduated from SS Peter & Paul Elementary School in 1955. He attended Cardinal Hayes HS in the Bronx and later graduated from Manhattan College

Mass: Our Lady of the Lakes. New Milford. CT May 21. 2010 Homilist: Rev. Fred Langlois

Text: Isaiah 43: But now thus says the Lord, he who created you, he who formed you, "Fear not for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine. When you pass through the waters I will be with you; and through the rivers for they shall not overwhelm you. For I am the Lord your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior. You are precious in my eyes and honored, and I love you."

John Joseph McLoughlin was born on October 5, 1940 in New York City. His mother Kathleen was one of seven and from County Kerry; his father Michael was one of eighteen and from County Wicklow and he worked for the Transit Authority in New York City.

John and his sister Ann grew up in an Irish neighborhood in the South Bronx and belonged to Saints Peter and Paul parish. After elementary school there, John went on to Cathedral College Prep High School with the intention of going on to seminary. But then he discovered how much he enjoyed girls and dancing, so the seminary was not for him. He went on to graduate from Cardinal Hayes High School, where he was a very good student.

John took Latin in school and served as an altar boy with another boy who would wind up being our current Archbishop of Hartford, Henry Mansell. As a boy the Archbishop was called Henny. They had some wonderful times together although Henny was 2-3 years older than John. One such story is as follows:  The pastor, Monsignor McCarthy, had just returned from Ireland and brought back two beautiful Waterford crystal cruets for the water and wine at Mass. Serving as an altar boy, John tripped on his cassock and dropped the new cruets. They shattered into a thousand pieces once they hit that marble floor.  Henny had to run into the sacristy for a broom, so the Monsignor wouldn't see him laughing.  Archbishop Mansell loved remembering stories like these about John.

After high school John worked for a year for the Transit Authority and then went into the Army. After boot camp at Fort Bragg he served his two years as a Military Policeman. His active duty was extended because of the Viet Nam War.

He went back to the Bronx, working by day at the First National Bank in Manhattan, and going to school at night, thanks to the GI. Bill. It took John seven years to graduate with his in Business from Manhattan College.

John subsequently found his niche in pharmaceutical sales. He loved this line of work and was hugely successful. He eventually rose to Director of Sales at SoftGel for the past fifteen years. Sales took John all over the world. His family moved to Ireland for three years while John directed sales throughout Europe.

John loved parties and meeting with his staff members and combining their families for a few days together or even a week in Texas, California and/or Florida.

John loved people. Whenever he walked into a room, people would know him. He knew all the restaurants and it would take him only a few minutes to discover who also had a mother from County Kerry. People easily gravitated to John.

One of those people was Gretta. Margaret and John met in an Irish pub. John turned to Gretta and said, "Don"t I know you from somewhere?" Those immortal words were spoken in Manhattan at "The Hitching Post"--quite appropriately named. John and Gretta danced the night away, dancing the Savoy.

Then came a night out for dinner. Gretta ordered a shrimp cocktail; John was in cahoots with the waiter and in that shrimp cocktail was, the ring. Gretta said yes in 1969 and they were married in 1970.

In those days, John was working for a pharmaceutical company and Gretta was working on Wall Street. They moved to Nyack to start their family. Brendan and Jennifer were born Nyack, NY. Kevin was born in Connecticut after the family's move to New Milford.

With their children John and Gretta made many trips to Florida and to Ireland. First they would see Gretta's mom. Granny Major in County Longford. Then on they would go to County Wicklow to visit their many cousins there. Then on to Kerry where they would stay with more relatives there.

Gretta's mom was a wonderful cook, and she would cook huge meals of leg of lamb with all the trimmings, homemade bread and everything else homemade. The children would traipse around the farm with Uncle Mickey, checking on the cows, seeing to the milking, discovering new lambs. Then at night John's delight was going to the local pub “John V's” for a Guinness. In these Irish pubs, everybody knows your name and loves exchanging stories and telling jokes.

In County Wicklow one night, Ann and Ben walked from their house to the pub. Always on the way back they would stop and pick a few hamburgers. Well, this one night when they got home, Ben found there was no meat in the sandwiches, just the rolls. So John went back to the burger place and got two more. Then that next morning, Ben found the burgers under a tree. The hot burgers and their juices had allowed the meat to slip free from the rolls and out the bottom of the paper bag, while leaving the rolls intact! How John loved to tell the story!

In County Kerry John's cousin Michael was a great buddy. They looked alike. They walked alike. They even had the same smile. Michael and Johnny were big fans of Irish football. They would call each other across the Atlantic sharing stories about the Irish team from Kerry.

John also loved the Giants and the Yankees, a passion he shared with son Kevin.

He loved Irish music.

John would drive miles out of his way for one more Reuben sandwich from Danzer's in Syracuse. He loved ketchup on everything.

John was wonderful to his parents including them in on everything even partying together. There was never a question of whether Mr. and Mrs. McLoughlin would come. They'd be there.

When son Brendan had to wear eyeglasses, the boy resisted. Then John said to his son, "It's ok: you'll be in Mr. Mullane's Club," And the idea of wearing glasses like Mr. Mullane agreed with Brendan, so he did it.

After his three years in Ireland son Kevin delighted the Mullanes with his bit of a brogue. The Mullanes would count to ten. eleven, twelve--just to hear Kevin continue with his ''tharteen'' and farteen."

At Jennifer and Gil's wedding, John was so pleased to be able to walk his daughter down the aisle. After so many setbacks, that was such a great achievement.

John enjoyed good health until the loss of his son Brendan three years ago. At Brendan's Mass I wore this chasuble, a gift from his nieces.

As we know, John was blessed and a blessing to Michelle and Danny, Michael, Anthony, Danielle and Isabelle, his sister Ann, cousins, nieces and countless friends. He suffered and struggled but in his charming and delightful and engaging way. John McLoughlin is…An Irish Blessing!




May 20, 2010
My condolences to you and your Family. May God comfort you during this difficult time. Alison, Donald, Anthony & Andrew ~ Alison Franco, New Milford, Connecticut.

May 20, 2010
Patrick Morgan, Brookfield, Connecticut

May 20, 2010
The Manhattan College Alumni Community shares the grief, and is now praying for our fellow alumni and the family at this time. The Alumni Office has been informed. As well as the Jasper Jottings community that I personally can reach. We are all a little poorer now. "No man is an island, entire of itself ... any man's death diminishes me". We are sorry for your loss. John Reinke (MC1968), Kendall Park, New Jersey

May 20, 2010
I am so very sorry for your loss, Jennifer and family. ~ Patty Travaglino, Stamford, Connecticut

May 21, 2010
Mrs.Mcloughlin, I am very sorry for you and your family's loss. Peter Barbero, Morris, Connecticut

May 24, 2010 We knew and loved John. He was a great guy and provided us with many laughs. We will never forget him Winona and Larry Johnson Hot Springs Village, AR

May 27, 2010
Mrs. Mcloughlin, I was very sorry to hear about John. I worked with him in the LA office at Softgel for 12 years. He was a great guy.
Colista De Felice

May 27, 2010

Soft Gel Technologies Mourns The Loss Of John McLoughlin:  Press Release

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On June 11, 2010, a gathering of Eagles came together to Honor & Remember John McLoughlin at the PRESSBOX in Manhattan.

John Manning; Frank Leahy; Donita, Patrick and Tommie Kilgallen; Paddy McKenna; and Daniel Mullane